Eating mindfully is something we were born knowing how to do. Noticing how food makes us feel while we’re eating it and how satisfied we are afterwards is not a special talent. We all started out with this ability. Somewhere along the way, though, most of us were socialized to focus more on external signals as opposed to what’s going on internally. So as I amusedly watch my babies’ gleeful faces as they squish and smash their way through their gloriously messy mealtime, I can’t help but think, “Hey…they’ve got a point!”
Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.
Don't you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk
about your new diet. In fact, don't go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy
food. Cook healthy meals. But don't say, "I'm not eating carbs right now." Your daughter
should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to
shame about yourself.
By Mommy Laura Cipullo RD, CDE, CEDRD Now it is always a RD’s recommendation to never have a power struggle around food. But what happens when your kid is the one who is running the show? I have seen this with clients, where the kid becomes so picky with the food, the parent obliges. A few weeks ago, I was thinking to myself, was this happening in my home with my youngest son. School was out. We moved homes on […]
So you may recall my disclosure in a previous blog, sharing that my son is anything
but a fruit lover. He politely refuses whenever offered any – whether it’s the
sweetest, most amazing strawberry, or the crunchiest red apple. When he has tried
the occasional bite, his eyes water, he gags, and just can’t move beyond it.
What an amazing example of why it is so important to trust your child’s gut. Next time your child has a stomach ache, suffers from gastric distress or digestive issues, consider that their body is trying to communicate something important that they may not be aware of.
I’m learning that the only predictable part of this process is the work I put in. I’m going to keep doing what I can to ensure that the girls get the best possible start, but I realize that that’s all I can do – set the stage. My babies will eat the way they want to eat and grow the way they’re destined to grow. And while they’re busy experiencing new tastes and flavors, their mom is savoring the sweetness of stepping back and letting go.
I think from all the Mommy RD stories here on Mom Dishes It Out, you now know that RDs have their fair share of food and nutrition conundrums. But like you, we need to separate our emotional-selves and work with our child. This is probably the hardest part. Being an objective feeder is quite the challenge. Don’t despair, your kids may surprise you..